Really been quite a while since I wrote on my blog...lots of things happened in last 2 months - some expected, some unexpected...good, bad, routine...
As I always believe, there are so many things to learn from every experience and that's what I have done...learnt a lot during past couple of months. Certain things that keep coming to my mind:
Sometimes, your good friends become your best friends in a rough situation; other times, some of them just stop being around...they might have their reasons, but you learn a lesson in friendship…you know who are/aren’t ready to take pains with you.
In different phases of your life, you’re a different person, only with the same basic qualities. Sometimes, you are very patient, calm and forgiving; other times, you might be irritable and unforgiving. When you see the latter behavior in others, try and understand what’s troubling them. And when you see it in yourself, try saying sorry more often…an apology can sometimes save a lot of trouble, and even a relationship.
Those who have been there for you, do deserve a second and even a third chance…but those, who despite being given so many chances, do not change…it’s high time they are out of your life. What’s the point of wasting your time and energy on someone who doesn’t care about you?
When you expect something out of a situation and that doesn’t happen, you have two choices – change the situation, or change your expectations. For a little while, both the approaches can work, but a permanent solution requires lot of self analysis and perseverance. Sometimes, what seems like the worst situation might bring out the best result possible. And who knows, it might just be a better path towards what you wanted to achieve in the first place! If you think you are in a mess and there seems to be no way out, leave it to God…he knows the best, after all!
Whatever the situation; however big the heartache; the words “I understand” do wonders. I have used them very often with my troubled friends and I have seen the effect they have…it’s miraculous how someone feels better just by knowing that someone understands what they are going through. Another phrase that works for every situation is “This too shall pass” – I have used it often to tell myself when I feel that there is absolutely no way out of the chaos life seems to be…there always is a way and if you are courageous enough to follow it, it always leads to a better result.
Many people have told me over the past one year that I am very strong and I inspire them in some way. But sometimes, I have broken down on the slightest of trigger, I have cried for trivial things. Life’s like that…you face the storm with the best in you but a careless remark thrown at you might hurt like hell. So what? That’s part of being humane…it is OK to cry when you feel there’s no other way to get the gibberish out of your system, it is OK to feel hurt when someone says something bad at your back, it is OK to be weak, only if after you’ve cried and felt hurt, you get up once again to face the storm. As they say “The brave are not courageous all the time, they are courageous longer”. As long you have it in you to accept the situation and make the best out of it, there is no stopping you from achieving success on your path.
For the first time, I have learnt to live in the moment, take everyday as it comes. Necessity really taught me an important lesson. In the days when my thoughts drifted to the uncertain future and scared me, I have fooled my mind by telling it – if this is the bottom, the best is yet to come, so be calm; it this is not the bottom yet, then, enjoy it while it lasts.
I have experienced emotions in me that I never thought I had, I have found capabilities in me that I never knew I possessed, and I have also seen in me the bitterness that I could let go. Now, I know, there are moments when you can feel helpless, frustrated and gloomy. But the moments that make the life worth living, surpass these by so big a number that I feel content. Difficulties do bring out the best in you, if you refuse to give up!
