Yep it's really been a long time since I wrote on my blog...well, since I wrote anything! For past few months, I have been out of touch with the writer in me...doesn't mean I haven't been thinking of writing, but just didn't! There are number of reasons, but then, why get into excuses?
So many things have happened in last few months...and I wonder how fast life can change! I have come face to face with situations that taught me new things about myself. I used to believe I was someone who wouldn't be able to forgive certain things that happened in past; yet I did. When the situation presented itself, I did not have any qualms in letting go - of the pain and hurt I have been keeping with me for so long. I realized I was ready to move on.
Recently I watched 'Oprah' and she was talking about forgiveness. I really liked her definition which said "Forgiveness is giving up the hope that past could have been any different"...what a wonderful way to say that the things that have already occured cannot be changed and instead of clinging to them, we should move on and try to make the best of what we have.
Well, all of us have known such insightful things for so long, yet we forget them when its time to practice. But sometimes, life teaches us lessons that cannot be forgotten, nor unlearnt. Sometimes, it is better to be a little flexible in your definitions of the things in life. For example, a couple in a romantic relationship might not be happy with each-other simply because their ways of expressing love might be different...if they could only see that loving someone in a different way than they expect does not mean loving them less, they would be happier.
I was talking to this friend the other day and he said that he has learnt so many things from me and I thought, "well, when am I gonna learn from myself" ;-) Yes, its easier to give advice than follow it. But sometimes, if we could just follow what our own mind told us...sometimes, we do but other times, we ignore it. And when we have ignored our subconscious mumber of times, for several years, it starts keeping mum. It is then that we have to seek answers outside of ourselves. So isn't it better to keep conversing with the subconscious so that it keeps guiding us?
Coming back to the things that my friend learned from me, it is two things that he specifically practised. First, a person should learn to be alone; one should not feel helpless or sad when there is no one to talk to; one should enjoy his/her own company. Being alone does not necessarily mean being lonely. If I enjoy being with myself, then I would never feel that I need someone else to discuss my problems with; I should be content with being my own best friend. And by God's grace, if you do have friends around you, then nothing better!
Second, a person should never feel fear and regrets. Fearing future and regretting past always results in spoiling the present. If you are confident that whatever you did was the best thing you could at that moment in the given situation, then you would also start having faith that whatever happens to you would be the best that could happen to you. Keeping the faith in yourself as well as in the Almighty is very important to lead a content life.
Well, I am a believer and I try to make things less painful and easier to bear. This is what I try to tell people when they ask for my advice. I have this immense faith in the principle of life that whatever you give to others, will eventually come back to you, sometimes manifolds! So isn't it better to give good? I am sure that most of us know this fact and usually pratice it in our good times. But when we are surrounded by darkness all around, it gets difficult to follow such principles. Understandable. But then, if you look around you, you'll see that there are people who think they could get away with whatever they do to others, and there is no one to keep a tab on their misdeeds. For some period of time, they do. Because the way nature or God works is this. He gives you chances upon chances to improve your life. If you keep taking them, you will end up happy; if you don't and repeat the same mistakes again and again, then no one can make things turn. So happens with people who are not good to others, who deliberately hurt others. God gives them opportunities to make amends, but if they do not make the best of it, then these people do get back what they gave in the first place. So, isn't it better to start with good so that whatever percent you get back, will be good?
There are so many such simple things in life that can make your life better; all you need to do is to start looking for answers within yourself; because in the end, you will find the answers inside you and the path that your subconscious paves for you, would be the best for you.
So many things have happened in last few months...and I wonder how fast life can change! I have come face to face with situations that taught me new things about myself. I used to believe I was someone who wouldn't be able to forgive certain things that happened in past; yet I did. When the situation presented itself, I did not have any qualms in letting go - of the pain and hurt I have been keeping with me for so long. I realized I was ready to move on.
Recently I watched 'Oprah' and she was talking about forgiveness. I really liked her definition which said "Forgiveness is giving up the hope that past could have been any different"...what a wonderful way to say that the things that have already occured cannot be changed and instead of clinging to them, we should move on and try to make the best of what we have.
Well, all of us have known such insightful things for so long, yet we forget them when its time to practice. But sometimes, life teaches us lessons that cannot be forgotten, nor unlearnt. Sometimes, it is better to be a little flexible in your definitions of the things in life. For example, a couple in a romantic relationship might not be happy with each-other simply because their ways of expressing love might be different...if they could only see that loving someone in a different way than they expect does not mean loving them less, they would be happier.
I was talking to this friend the other day and he said that he has learnt so many things from me and I thought, "well, when am I gonna learn from myself" ;-) Yes, its easier to give advice than follow it. But sometimes, if we could just follow what our own mind told us...sometimes, we do but other times, we ignore it. And when we have ignored our subconscious mumber of times, for several years, it starts keeping mum. It is then that we have to seek answers outside of ourselves. So isn't it better to keep conversing with the subconscious so that it keeps guiding us?
Coming back to the things that my friend learned from me, it is two things that he specifically practised. First, a person should learn to be alone; one should not feel helpless or sad when there is no one to talk to; one should enjoy his/her own company. Being alone does not necessarily mean being lonely. If I enjoy being with myself, then I would never feel that I need someone else to discuss my problems with; I should be content with being my own best friend. And by God's grace, if you do have friends around you, then nothing better!
Second, a person should never feel fear and regrets. Fearing future and regretting past always results in spoiling the present. If you are confident that whatever you did was the best thing you could at that moment in the given situation, then you would also start having faith that whatever happens to you would be the best that could happen to you. Keeping the faith in yourself as well as in the Almighty is very important to lead a content life.
Well, I am a believer and I try to make things less painful and easier to bear. This is what I try to tell people when they ask for my advice. I have this immense faith in the principle of life that whatever you give to others, will eventually come back to you, sometimes manifolds! So isn't it better to give good? I am sure that most of us know this fact and usually pratice it in our good times. But when we are surrounded by darkness all around, it gets difficult to follow such principles. Understandable. But then, if you look around you, you'll see that there are people who think they could get away with whatever they do to others, and there is no one to keep a tab on their misdeeds. For some period of time, they do. Because the way nature or God works is this. He gives you chances upon chances to improve your life. If you keep taking them, you will end up happy; if you don't and repeat the same mistakes again and again, then no one can make things turn. So happens with people who are not good to others, who deliberately hurt others. God gives them opportunities to make amends, but if they do not make the best of it, then these people do get back what they gave in the first place. So, isn't it better to start with good so that whatever percent you get back, will be good?
There are so many such simple things in life that can make your life better; all you need to do is to start looking for answers within yourself; because in the end, you will find the answers inside you and the path that your subconscious paves for you, would be the best for you.
