Shame on us Women!

We have heard this many times that Indian women are themselves responsible for their own plight. True to an extent since women make lives of other women tough, when they are in the role of a mother-in-law, sister-in-law or boss or sometimes even as a mother. Yes, we women hate other women and take out our problems on them. For example a woman who was mistreated by her husband takes it out on her daughter-in-law when her son tries to be good to his wife. Then, some mothers provide different treatment and privileges to their sons and daughters. Most Indian women raise their sons differently so that these guys, when they become adults, they have the notion that they are superior to their female counterparts, at home or outside. This is the basic reason why men treat women with disrespect or at least, not at par with them.

Yes, we all know this and I can vouch that many people are trying to get rid of this mentality by bringing up their children as equal. I have seen some families which have one or two daughters and are not willing to try for a son, unlike our previous generations.

Yet what infuriates me is when on one hand, we women complain that men don't treat us as we deserve but then, some survey is conducted by UNICEF and it shows entirely different results! The one I am referring to is:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/57-of-boys-53-of-girls-think-wife-beating-is-justified/articleshow/12862006.cms

This survey clearly shows that more than half of the women surveyed actually feel it is justified for a husband to beat his wife!!! How can any woman justify violence by her husband or any man? OK, may be they were brought up in homes where this was common. But that doesn't mean that it was right and acceptable. I think it is this attitude of women to take everything that men are doing it to women! If we unite and refuse to be tortured in any way, physical and mental, by our life partners, will they dare be violent to us? I am sure that the women who feel wife-beating is justified have been victims of such incidences themselves. It is because their husbands also know how their wives feel about domestic violence and hence, they know these women will accept their fate and will not question the actions of their husbands. It is not only sad but also shocking and completely unacceptable that women would say their husbands have the right to hit them!

I want to say this to all women, whether a victim of domestic violence or not, wife-beating is NOT JUSTIFIED and NOT ACCEPTABLE. Period.