Points to Remember

There are a few things which I want to write down, that came up while having a chat with a very good friend. Here they are:

1. Knowing is just not enough. You have to implement what you know. True! I might be an Einstein in my thoughts, but what do I get out of it until I get to actually try what I know?
2. Take responsibility and make a choice. If you hold yourself, and only yourself responsible for whatever happened to you, whatever you did wrong or right, whatever turned out to be good or bad, it is easier to redefine your reality. The next step is to make a choice. Choose to love, choose to live, choose to be successful, and choose to live your dreams. It's your life after all.
3. Watch what you tell yourself. After all, our mind is just like a computer. You will get from it what you feed into it. Sometimes, we might be feeding contradictory things to our conscious and subconscious minds. It is not enough to say positive things to yourself until you truly believe in them. But then, when you keep saying and thinking positive, it will became a habit and will get embedded into your subconscious mind too.
4. When you are aware of your emotions, and can separate yourself from your feelings, it is easier to handle them. Well, I have known this for a long time, yet I am still learning...am going to be there soon.
5. When you set personal goals, time them. It's weird how we do everything else with a time limit in mind, like getting up and going to work, project work in office, meeting someone, going to a party etc. Yet when it comes to self improvement, all we say is I will achieve such and such goal but it might be a slow process. Why does it have to be slow? Why can't we bring a sense of urgency in this as well, as we do for other mundane things in life. Well, even I did not think of many things that way...it's time to time the actions :-)
6. You are not what others expect you to be. You are what you truly wish to be and you have every right to be your best. There is one thing I have observed in life. Most of the people resist change, because of fear. We are scared to get into the unknown. But then, that's where you find the treasure!
7. If you are not satisfied with the way things are, it is always not a good option to change the situation. Sometimes, just changing yourself could be a better option and if you still want to change the situation, go ahead and do it. For instance, being unhappy in a job or relationship, you might want to change the job or give the relationship a break. But then, if the issue lies within you, the situation will not improve. First look into yourself, and then make a choice. It's back to choices again :-)
8. Delayed gratification is OK when it's for some higher goal. But rest of the time, enjoy life to the fullest each moment... you never know when it will end, without a notice!
9. If you plan, plan grand. If you wish, wish grander. If you desire and fantasize, let there be no bounds. After all, you are entitled to get the best out of life.
10. If you face an issue, take it as a challenge. Don't get into 'blame game' but into the solution-oriented mode. It's the easier and less stressful way.